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So you’ve been going out for a awhile and you have passed the love test to know whether or not you are in love. Now your relationship has kind of hit the ole regular routine.

Here are the top seven ways to show your love and get the romance back into your relationship.

1. Have a pad of sticky notes and leave love notes and some little thoughtful gift like candy. Leave the note where the love of your life is certainly to find it.

2. With the invention of the internet we have become reliant on emails. Try this. Go to the store and buy an actual greeting card expresses your true feelings for your partner. I guarantee this will put a spark into your next rendezvouz. It’s a nice surprise to find something other than bills in the mail.

3. Call and leave a love not on your partner’s voicemail. Make it a well thought out “love note”.

You will get a guaranteed phone call in just a few minutes. The secret here is to call and leave an actual voicemail. This works like magic.

4. How about a nice picnic lunch by the beach or in the mountains or just some little gets away spot. One of my favorite places is right by a running river. You get the relaxing sound of the water running and a nice peaceful day out to explore each other and get caught up with each other. You’ll be surprised how well this works to put a little romance into the routine.

5. One really nice thing to do is to take your boyfriend or girlfriend to some of the places you used to hang out at as a kid. Remember the old pizza place you used to hang out at before you went to the skate rink. This is a terrific way to let your sweetheart really get to know you.

6. If you are always going out to dinner or the movies plan on a nice romantic evening at home. Rent a movie and get his or her favorite snacks. Get a movie like The Proposal” or “Notebook” an nice finishing touch on this is to buy one red rose along with their favorite snack. Sometimes we get so caught up in the noise of the world that we tend to block each other out.

I hope that you find the time to fit some of these things into your love life. You’ll find that you don’t have to agonize over ways to be romantic again. With a little more research you’ll find many more of these little things you can do to spice it up a bit.

So think you are in love. You have those feelings that everybody gets when they’re in love. I mean you think about you him or her all the time. You feel like you have to be with that person all the time. You’ve been together all day and when you part ways for the night you already miss that person. That’s love right?

Well lets take a closer look.

That feeling you have that has just engulfed your life could be a couple of things.

1. Infatuation: Is a chemical reaction of dopamine, nor epinephrine, pheylethalimine that causes us to feel good and produce adrenaline. In short these are natural “drugs” that our body produces and can affect rationale thinking, emotional attachment and feelings of bliss and sexual arousal.

So I guess that wouldn’t be love.

2. Physical attraction: Being physically attracted to somebody doesn’t mean you love them. You might be physically attracted to a model or a Hollywood actor but that doesn’t mean you have feelings of trust and commitment to them.

So that wouldn’t be love.

The dictionary has a number of definitions of what love could be but lets look at the 5 ways to know if you are in love.

1. First and foremost and by far the biggest sign that you are in love is that you put your partner’s feelings above your own. If you want to go to the mall but your boyfriend really wants you to sit down and watch the big game with him you will watch the game. On the other hand this also should work in reverse. He should care enough about you to want to make you happy

2. You have a total and complete trust in the other person to be able to go hang out with some of his friends and feel totally confident that he is not going to be with a another girl. In fact that trust is so much so that it’s not even a thought.

3. You feel content in your relationship and feel totally fulfilled. You feel that you’re relationship is complete and that nothing is missing.

4. Your arguments are short lived and you don’t go to bed angry with each other. You are going to have differences in your relationship but how you handle that argument is the key to knowing if you are in love.

5. You never would ask your boyfriend to choose between you and his family or friends. And of course he wouldn’t either.

There are many other ways to know whether you are in love or infatuation. But when you fall in love you know you are in love.

I was talking to someone the other day and we had conservation about lust and love. She told me that people don’t fall in love because it will never be that way. It’s all based on lust because couples will never hurt each other if it’s love. I kind of agree with this person at this point. It was hard enough to admit that because I’m a firm believer of love at first sight and finding a soul mate. When I realized what this she was trying to say, I questioned her past experience in relationships.

If you’re a psychologist (I’m not), you know the past experiences can mold a person’s persona or behavior. As I questioned her past relationships, I noticed that she had it very bad. She doesn’t believe in love anymore because her past boyfriends she treated her badly. She doesn’t want to get hurt again. I was trying to convince her that there are plenty of fishes in the sea and that she should take it as an experience so you won’t make the same mistake again.

However, it’s easier said than done, right? This happens to people who try to compromise what they have with their partners. They give everything they have just to see it crumpled to the ground.

Even though people like her had bad experiences in relationships, they should never give up on love. Do not let a “dark cloud” go over your heart. That dark cloud will just block every opportunity to be loved. If you feel this way, don’t be afraid of love.