Love Match

So you’ve been going out for a awhile and you have passed the love test to know whether or not you are in love. Now your relationship has kind of hit the ole regular routine.

Here are the top seven ways to show your love and get the romance back into your relationship.

1. Have a pad of sticky notes and leave love notes and some little thoughtful gift like candy. Leave the note where the love of your life is certainly to find it.

2. With the invention of the internet we have become reliant on emails. Try this. Go to the store and buy an actual greeting card expresses your true feelings for your partner. I guarantee this will put a spark into your next rendezvouz. It’s a nice surprise to find something other than bills in the mail.

3. Call and leave a love not on your partner’s voicemail. Make it a well thought out “love note”.

You will get a guaranteed phone call in just a few minutes. The secret here is to call and leave an actual voicemail. This works like magic.

4. How about a nice picnic lunch by the beach or in the mountains or just some little gets away spot. One of my favorite places is right by a running river. You get the relaxing sound of the water running and a nice peaceful day out to explore each other and get caught up with each other. You’ll be surprised how well this works to put a little romance into the routine.

5. One really nice thing to do is to take your boyfriend or girlfriend to some of the places you used to hang out at as a kid. Remember the old pizza place you used to hang out at before you went to the skate rink. This is a terrific way to let your sweetheart really get to know you.

6. If you are always going out to dinner or the movies plan on a nice romantic evening at home. Rent a movie and get his or her favorite snacks. Get a movie like The Proposal” or “Notebook” an nice finishing touch on this is to buy one red rose along with their favorite snack. Sometimes we get so caught up in the noise of the world that we tend to block each other out.

I hope that you find the time to fit some of these things into your love life. You’ll find that you don’t have to agonize over ways to be romantic again. With a little more research you’ll find many more of these little things you can do to spice it up a bit.

So think you are in love. You have those feelings that everybody gets when they’re in love. I mean you think about you him or her all the time. You feel like you have to be with that person all the time. You’ve been together all day and when you part ways for the night you already miss that person. That’s love right?

Well lets take a closer look.

That feeling you have that has just engulfed your life could be a couple of things.

1. Infatuation: Is a chemical reaction of dopamine, nor epinephrine, pheylethalimine that causes us to feel good and produce adrenaline. In short these are natural “drugs” that our body produces and can affect rationale thinking, emotional attachment and feelings of bliss and sexual arousal.

So I guess that wouldn’t be love.

2. Physical attraction: Being physically attracted to somebody doesn’t mean you love them. You might be physically attracted to a model or a Hollywood actor but that doesn’t mean you have feelings of trust and commitment to them.

So that wouldn’t be love.

The dictionary has a number of definitions of what love could be but lets look at the 5 ways to know if you are in love.

1. First and foremost and by far the biggest sign that you are in love is that you put your partner’s feelings above your own. If you want to go to the mall but your boyfriend really wants you to sit down and watch the big game with him you will watch the game. On the other hand this also should work in reverse. He should care enough about you to want to make you happy

2. You have a total and complete trust in the other person to be able to go hang out with some of his friends and feel totally confident that he is not going to be with a another girl. In fact that trust is so much so that it’s not even a thought.

3. You feel content in your relationship and feel totally fulfilled. You feel that you’re relationship is complete and that nothing is missing.

4. Your arguments are short lived and you don’t go to bed angry with each other. You are going to have differences in your relationship but how you handle that argument is the key to knowing if you are in love.

5. You never would ask your boyfriend to choose between you and his family or friends. And of course he wouldn’t either.

There are many other ways to know whether you are in love or infatuation. But when you fall in love you know you are in love.

What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind.

Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true. Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all. A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as God said Love all

Depending on context, love can be of different varieties. Romantic love is a deep, intense and unending. It shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship. The term Platonic love, familial love and religious love are also matter of great affection. It is more of desire, preference and feelings. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship and depends more on its concept of depth, versatility, and complexity. But at times the very existence of love is questioned. Some say it is false and meaningless. It says that it never exist, because there has been many instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. The history of our world has witnessed many such events. There has been hatred between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses have failed each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing with such dilemmas everyday. But love is not responsible for that. It is us, the people, who have forgotten the meaning of love and have undertaken such gruesome apathy.

In the past the study of philosophy and religion has done many speculations on the phenomenon of love. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculptor and literature. Psychology has also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and neuroscience has also done to it.

Psychology portrays love as a cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. It is said to have three components in the book of psychology: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated by both philosophers and scholars. Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into picture. Maybe the person whom we see in front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in compatibility, the key is to think about the long term successful relationship, not a short journey. We need to understand each other and must always remember that no one is perfect.

Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship with your matter of affection.

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
William Shakespeare.

I was talking to someone the other day and we had conservation about lust and love. She told me that people don’t fall in love because it will never be that way. It’s all based on lust because couples will never hurt each other if it’s love. I kind of agree with this person at this point. It was hard enough to admit that because I’m a firm believer of love at first sight and finding a soul mate. When I realized what this she was trying to say, I questioned her past experience in relationships.

If you’re a psychologist (I’m not), you know the past experiences can mold a person’s persona or behavior. As I questioned her past relationships, I noticed that she had it very bad. She doesn’t believe in love anymore because her past boyfriends she treated her badly. She doesn’t want to get hurt again. I was trying to convince her that there are plenty of fishes in the sea and that she should take it as an experience so you won’t make the same mistake again.

However, it’s easier said than done, right? This happens to people who try to compromise what they have with their partners. They give everything they have just to see it crumpled to the ground.

Even though people like her had bad experiences in relationships, they should never give up on love. Do not let a “dark cloud” go over your heart. That dark cloud will just block every opportunity to be loved. If you feel this way, don’t be afraid of love.